Chapter 1: The Challenge of Procrastination

Procrastination is a complex issue, particularly for those with ADHD. Benjamin Franklin famously advised against delaying tasks, yet his wisdom overlooks the unique hurdles faced by individuals with this condition.

Motivation plays a crucial role in task completion. While many attribute motivation to personal discipline, there are neurological factors at play. Dopamine, a neurotransmitter linked to feelings of pleasure and motivation, is often deficient in the brains of those with ADHD. This lack makes it challenging to feel inspired or engaged, particularly with mundane tasks that are easily postponed.

I received my ADHD diagnosis at the age of forty-two. Until that point, I had often labeled myself as lazy or forgetful. I struggled with a pervasive aversion to tasks unless they sparked my interest. Consequently, when I found something captivating, I became deeply engrossed. Yet, anything I deemed uninteresting was relegated to the bottom of my to-do list.

My academic history was marked by last-minute efforts: papers were often completed on the due date, studying involved cramming, and homework was frequently tackled in the morning hours.

Extra credit opportunities were neglected, and I never stayed late for additional practice. My only exceptions were bodybuilding and martial arts, activities I pursued passionately.

Tax season typically saw me scrambling to meet the April 15th deadline, unless I opted for an extension. During my marriage, my spouse served as a source of external motivation, managing tasks and planning ahead. She often speculated about how I would manage without her, and the answer was clear—I would struggle immensely.

To combat procrastination, I developed various strategies over time. Utilizing a wall calendar alongside my phone's reminders helped keep me organized. I framed my procrastination as a fear to conquer, compelling me to confront tasks I’d been avoiding, whether it involved contacting the IRS or reconnecting with an old friend. The nature of the task didn't always dictate the level of procrastination I experienced.

I also established self-imposed deadlines. Although my schedule isn’t governed by a strict 9-to-5 routine, I set specific times for work and personal projects, which I could adhere to because they were enjoyable and rewarding.

Yet, many tasks still get sidelined. I often delay dealing with potentially upsetting mail until I feel mentally prepared. Similarly, some phone calls require me to be in just the right mindset, which can take weeks or even months.

One effective strategy I’ve adopted is allowing myself an additional half hour for every commitment. I realized that rushing reflected a sense of inadequacy in my life, so I started giving myself more time. This simple adjustment has significantly reduced my stress levels.

I’ve learned that tasks will eventually be completed, although I don’t relish procrastination. The anxiety it triggers diminishes my enjoyment of life. By allowing myself more time, I can arrive at my destination feeling relaxed and prepared.

While I strive to approach my life with this mindset, I am still a work in progress. Some tasks remain neglected until they are nearly overdue. I aim to train myself to recognize the early signs of procrastination so that I can take action before it becomes urgent.

In the past, I envied those who completed tasks promptly. As an adult, I found myself envious of people who boasted about filing their taxes early, which seemed like a peculiar trait.

However, receiving my diagnosis helped me to be kinder to myself. I realized I wasn't merely a slacker; I was grappling with a genuine condition. I knew I could dedicate myself to meaningful pursuits and remain committed to my passions. Yet, the routine aspects of life felt insurmountable.

Despite the challenges, I have not given up on change. By educating myself about ADHD, I have gained a fresh perspective on procrastination. Sometimes, I must dig deep for motivation, and that may involve embracing a little fear. Once adrenaline kicks in, I find myself capable of tackling even the most daunting tasks.

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Chapter 2: Finding Motivation Through Music

The first video, "Blundetto - I'll Be Home Later (feat. Akale Horns) [Official Audio]," offers a refreshing take on motivation and the journey toward self-fulfillment. Its melodic rhythms can serve as a backdrop for personal reflection as you navigate your own struggles with procrastination.

In the second video, "Cian Ducrot - I'll Be Waiting (Official Video)," the themes of anticipation and hope resonate deeply. This can inspire you to take that crucial step toward overcoming procrastination and embracing action in your life.