Chapter 1: The Struggles of Communication

Navigating verbal exchanges can be challenging for me, especially as an introvert. Conversations often feel like a burden, making me wish for solitude instead of social interaction. I find it intrusive when others probe into my life with endless questions, which leaves me feeling uncomfortable and annoyed. It's puzzling why such intimate details are deemed suitable for conversation in American culture, but that’s another issue.

I've often encountered individuals using my social anxiety to pry into my personal matters, typically to draw comparisons between our lives. Frankly, I’m exhausted. Engaging with others can be mentally taxing. Typically, when I meet someone new, they seem eager to flaunt their wealth, achievements, and education. The truth is, I’m not swayed by anything that isn’t part of my own life. It’s nice that you have these things, but honestly, I couldn't care less. If someone feels the need to impress me, it suggests I possess something far more valuable than their material possessions.

Admittedly, I do admire simple yet profound qualities often overlooked in society, such as the ability to speak multiple languages. Perhaps I’ll compile a list of such traits in a future piece. However, when it comes to wealth and diplomas? Not much interest there.

When they’re not boasting about their credentials, many people seem to feel the need to offer unsolicited advice, especially towards me as a single, childfree woman. However, when I delve into their lives, it becomes apparent how many of them are grappling with their own unhappiness. A crucial lesson I’ve learned is to refrain from being dazzled by outward appearances; you never know what sorrow or isolation lies behind someone’s facade of success.

With utmost sincerity, I urge you to live your life as you see fit. You owe no one a lifestyle that impresses them. Dismiss those who waste their time scrutinizing your every move and measuring themselves against you. The goal should be to impress yourself!

A memorable moment occurred during a social media debate about a rapper’s wealth, where two women were mocking the artist’s beautiful mansion in New Jersey. Their comments were filled with laughter at the notion that living in New Jersey was somehow inferior to New York City. It was at that moment I decided it was time to log off. Here were two individuals who were not residing in mansions, ridiculing a home they didn’t own, all rooted in ignorance!

While I’ve made strides in setting boundaries with overly curious strangers and even well-meaning family members, I still find conflict daunting. It often feels easier to provide the answers people are seeking just to silence them. However, when faced with a question I’d rather not answer, I’ve learned to pause and respond with a query or comment to redirect the conversation:

“Why do you ask?”

“Mind your own business.”

“That’s not something I’m willing to discuss.”

“I’ll pass on that question.”

I’ve also embraced my right to simply ignore questions, as not every inquiry warrants a response. Growing up, I was taught to be polite, receiving compliments about my upbringing, but this same politeness has often backfired. I refer to this as being excessively nice.

Fortunately, I’ve recognized this pattern and am actively working towards being more candid, reminiscent of two of the most controversial figures in pop culture: Donald Trump and Kanye West. Just to clarify, I’m only half-serious. I remain a quiet individual, but seriously, let’s abandon the notion of being nice for niceness’ sake! There’s little value in maintaining superficial niceties, especially to appease insecure individuals who seek validation through perceived shortcomings in others.

Chapter 2: The Cost of Politeness

In the first video, "F*CK BEING NICE," the discussion revolves around the pitfalls of excessive niceness, encouraging viewers to prioritize authenticity over societal expectations.

The second video, "Oh for fuck's sake," captures the frustration many feel when faced with societal pressures to conform, further emphasizing the importance of self-acceptance.