Chapter 1: The Duality of Being Single

Being single can evoke a mix of emotions—both thrilling and disheartening.

As someone who has never experienced a romantic relationship, I often find myself watching couples stroll through the streets, yearning for that intimacy. Still, there’s a unique joy in wandering the vibrant streets of New York, capturing moments through my camera lens. The absence of a partner allows me the freedom to explore life on my own terms.

However, being human means feeling the innate desire for companionship. It’s a complex struggle to appreciate the self-discovery that comes with being single while simultaneously longing for a romantic relationship. My commitment to Islam, which restricts me from pursuing a female partner outside of marriage, adds another layer to this dilemma.

Marriage, in my view, transcends just physical intimacy; it symbolizes a profound emotional connection. It’s a commitment where two individuals complement each other and strive to build a life together for themselves and their future family. It’s a means to expand one's familial ties, nurturing the next generation.

Yet, in today’s world, some perceive marriage as an unwelcome burden. They see it as a lifelong commitment that can lead to complications, especially in the event of divorce, where legal entanglements can create additional stress, particularly concerning asset division and child custody. For many, pursuing relationships outside of marriage appears to be a simpler option, allowing for a clean break if things don’t work out.

So, what’s the way forward?

I observe friends in committed relationships who seem genuinely happy, encouraging me to seek a romantic partner. However, my criteria for a spouse are quite distinct. If I pursue marriage, it often feels like families from my cultural background favor partners from stable professions like medicine or engineering, rather than someone in creative fields like writing or teaching. Women, too, come with their own set of expectations, some of which may seem outdated, such as culinary skills or educational background.

It may seem unfair, but that’s the reality for some.

On the flip side, I have friends who thrive in their single lives, using this time to grow personally and explore their passions without the constraints of someone else's schedule. They might occasionally wonder if life would be enhanced by a romantic partner, but it’s not always a pressing concern.

If you find yourself single and open to love, I encourage you to seek it out. Yet, take this time to relish your independence and self-discovery. Don’t let the sight of couples sharing intimate moments discourage you.

Your moment will arrive!

Celebrate your journey!

Appreciate yourself!

I would love to hear your thoughts—feel free to share in the comments below.

Chapter 2: Seeking Connection While Embracing Solitude

In "Single, Sad, or Unmotivated? We got you... | Holiday Series Ep. 2," we dive into the emotional landscape of being single, exploring ways to cope and find joy in solitude.

In "Single and Sad?.. How to Handle Singleness with Lisa Anderson," discover practical strategies to navigate the challenges of being single while fostering personal growth.