Chapter 1: Discovering My Non-Competitive Nature

A few mornings ago, I had the wonderful opportunity to experience an Ayurveda session with Keri Mangis. It was a delight to finally meet someone whose work I admire from Medium. Keri shared a wealth of knowledge about Ayurveda, providing me with valuable insights and suggesting small, healing changes I could incorporate into my life.

While we discussed my primary body type, or dosha, she noted that it was intriguing that I lack a competitive spirit, despite having a strong fiery Pitta energy. This observation took me by surprise—I had never considered my non-competitiveness as anything unusual until that moment. “I find no value in competition,” I responded. Keri encouraged me to write about this realization, and so here I am, grateful for her nudge.

Reflecting on my past, I recognized that in my younger years, I often felt compelled to measure myself against others. However, with maturity and life experiences, I’ve learned that competition no longer resonates with me. While some might find it motivating, I now perceive it as unnecessary pressure.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if the world were less about competition? Imagine if we weren’t striving to outdo one another or constantly trying to validate our worth. Embracing a competitive mindset can stifle our inner light and blind us to the subtle ways we contribute to the world.

I only recently acknowledged that I have indeed outgrown my competitive tendencies, a realization sparked by Keri’s insight. Her warm and supportive approach highlighted that she, too, embraces a non-competitive nature. She celebrates others’ dreams and aspirations, fostering a genuine connection rather than viewing it as a contest.

Such authentic exchanges thrive in an environment free from competition. Competitive individuals may perceive connections only as opportunities to showcase their superiority or may leave feeling either inferior or superior. This dynamic creates a divide, rather than fostering unity.

Connecting with others without the burden of competition feels deeply fulfilling. I believe everyone possesses unique talents, and competition is only beneficial when it focuses on personal development rather than comparison. However, an obsession with perfectionism can hinder our growth.

Over time, I’ve come to understand that life doesn’t necessitate competition. I’ve learned to appreciate others as sources of inspiration rather than threats, celebrating their achievements instead of viewing them as benchmarks for my worth.

When we engage in competition, the space for love and connection diminishes. The price of competitiveness can be high, blocking us from nurturing other vital aspects of our lives. I choose to embrace openness and deepen my connections, leaving little room for competition—save for a light-hearted sense.

I desire love and acceptance for who I am, not for my accomplishments. Competition is no longer a significant aspect of my identity. I’m learning to embrace all my facets, recognizing that there is only one version of me, just as there is only one of you.

“How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.”

— Rupi Kaur

Looking back, I realize that I had to navigate phases of intense competition and people-pleasing stemming from feelings of inadequacy. I underwent a rite of passage that involved confronting drama, rivalry, and comparison, ultimately leading me to a place of contentment devoid of competition.

A passage from a recent astrology reading by Louise Edington resonates with this journey. While it doesn’t directly address competition, it encapsulates the necessity of experiencing life’s challenges to arrive at a place of wholeness.

“In order to make it possible for radical truths and significant realizations to come through, you must first karmically dramatize... the unbearable tension between opposing points of view.”

— Louise Edington

Chapter 2: Acknowledging the Inspiration Behind My Journey

Thanks to Keri Mangis for inspiring this reflection through her enlightening Ayurveda session. If you’re curious to delve deeper into Ayurveda, I highly recommend booking a session with her. Her knowledge, wisdom, and compassion are truly enriching!

This first video, "Key to Success in Life isn't in Being Competitive but in Being Resilient," emphasizes the importance of resilience over competition in achieving personal success.

The second video, "Life Is Not a Competition | It Will Change the Way You See Life," offers a perspective on how shifting away from competition can transform your outlook on life.

Thank you for taking the time to read my thoughts, and a special thanks to Diana C., Spyder, jules, and Ravyne Hawke for your support!